Girls are much more interested in a warm smile and nice eyes these may be what a girl looks for in a guy physically , but it's what's on the inside that counts.
Girls will quickly get tired of good looks and seek out a guy who is confident and likable as a person. Even if you don't think you look good enough to get much a response from girls off the bat, the things you consider flaws may become things she loves about your appearance and what makes her find you even more attractive over time, dating coach Dan Bacon of The Modern Man explains. A girl can become truly attracted to an average guy's physical looks based on how he interacts with her.
Guys can impress a teenage girl when they have manners and respect her. Just do nice things. Hold the door open for her, offer your jacket when she's cold, listen to her and make an effort to find common interests bonus if you find you're both passionate about some of the same things! Make your interactions about her and try to put her at ease as much as you can, says psychologist Nancy Kalish, Ph. Guys can show girls respect, he says, by never pressuring her sexually, never talking down to her, pointing out her strengths, being respectful to the other important people in her life, and more.
A feeling of chemistry or a spark is another important thing that sets apart guys who are just friends from guys who become boyfriends. That spark comes from confidence and physical attraction, but it's also about a deeper connection that can't be forced; it is about being magnetically drawn to one another.
Top Qualities Teen Girls Want No doubt, different girls will have different priorities when it comes to finding a significant other. Confidence Confidence is probably the number one thing that girls look for in boys. Good Grooming If a guy wants to get a teenage girl's attention , he should follow basic grooming standards, such as showering, wearing deodorant, and wearing clean clothes.
Good Sense of Humor Making a girl laugh can heighten her attraction, as laughter is a natural aphrodisiac. Easy to Talk to Girls love to engage and communicate, so a guy who is willing to have long conversations or who is a good listener will set himself apart from the rest. Physical Attraction Girls look for guys who are cute and good looking, but it's a personal taste as to what matters the most.
High school teens often struggle to feel secure in their skin. So they spend much of their time and energy trying to look their best. Teen girls focus on every detail of their appearance, including hair, makeup, accessories, fashion, and most importantly, their figure. They are always comparing themselves to other girls their age and trying to keep up with the fashion trends that dictate what is acceptable.
Sadly, this can become a consuming and discouraging endeavor for many teen girls because they are incredibly critical of their appearance. They worry about the number of friends they have, who can be trusted, and if they belong to the right social circle. As with their appearance, their emotional security and self-esteem often correlate to the success of their peer relationships. High school social circles may be a bit more mature than middle school.
But there are still damaging behaviors that occur that can sever friendships. Teen girls constantly scrutinize everything they do in every area of their lives. They are their worst critic and put overwhelming pressure on meeting expectations. They will worry about how they are performing with anything they are involved in, whether that is their academics, athletics, extracurricular activities, employment, volunteer work, or social events.
High school girls worry about how they can improve, and they will frequently set unrealistic expectations on themselves that are difficult to meet. Many of our teen girls feel relentless pressure to be the best. High school girls worry about the opinions of their parents. Young women feel an intrinsic need to be loved and accepted by their parents.
And they worry about letting them down, or worse, failing them. Obviously you can't do everything, but the more active you are in school, the likely she'll be to run into you and be impressed by your skills. Don't stand out in a bad way. If you're the kid who always gets detention or talks back to his teachers, she may find you amusing, but she will not see you as boyfriend material.
Don't act confident — be confident. Let's face it. High school is not a time when people are at their most confident. Not only is your body and voice changing, but you're walking around filled with confusing hormones and new emotions, while trying to balance your school work and navigating a tricky social arena. Though the people around you may appear confident, it's likely that they're just masking their deep insecurities with arrogance, and that's exactly what you should avoid.
Here's how to make her notice you by being truly confident: [1] X Research source Take the time to look good. This doesn't mean spending hours gelling your hair or grinning in front of the mirror. Just make sure to take regular showers, style your hair, and wear clothes that flatter your body and show off your style. Oh, and make sure to wear pants that actually fit you. Pursue your interests. No matter how "nerdy" you may feel your real interests may be, if you're really passionate about something, you will make it cool.
Don't try out for the football team just because that's what all of your friends are doing if you'd rather play golf, or join the French club. She won't be impressed by you if you look like a follower. Followers do not have confidence. Don't be afraid to be enthusiastic. Though you may think real confidence is looking too cool for school and slouching in your seat in the back of the class, real confidence means wanting to learn and being excited by the world.
If you're interested in something in class, ask questions. She'll be impressed that you're so comfortable with who you are that you do whatever you want. Address your flaws. Part of being confident means knowing you're not perfect. Everyone in high school has plenty of growing to do, and that's natural. If you know you need to work on being more sensitive or a better friend, then do it.
Be fun. Girls want to have fun, and they don't want to be with a guy who is dark or mopey. Though you can't have a smile on your face all the time and high school can be rough, make it look like you're having a good time, and pretty soon you'll actually start having a good time and she'll want to join you.
National Institutes of Health Go to source Be friends with everyone. Though navigating high school cliques can be tricky and you can't be a part of every friend group, you should take the time to get to know a variety of people. This will show the girl that you're friendly and don't care about the status of the people that you talk to, and that you're a versatile person.
Drop the haters. Don't hang out with dudes who are mean to women, or who pick on the uncool kids. Girls are completely turned off by that, and you should avoid hanging out with haters or you'll look like one too. Always be laughing. Laugh and smile as much as you can. If you're surrounded by a force field of positive energy, the girl of your dreams will gravitate toward you.
Part 2. Start hanging out with her during school. Once the girl has noticed you, it's time to kick your game up a notch by paying her more attention. You should still play it cool and act like you're not too eager to hang out with her, but slowly start showing her that you think she's a cool chick during school.
Here's how you can do it: Stop to chat at her locker. Say "hey" and ask where her next class is. Make it look like you're just passing by. You can make her laugh by saying, "Mind if I check my hair? Start walking with her in the halls. Everyone knows that one major role of the high school boyfriend is walking his girl from class to class, even if it's the classes are miles apart.
If you're in the same class, walk with her to the next one, and make her laugh as you're getting there. You can play it cool and say goodbye to get to your own class halfway through.
Just give her a taste of how awesome it would be to have you as a boyfriend. Charm her in class. Be smooth by knowing all the answers to your teacher's questions without being a know-it all. Make your classmates snicker from time to time without being a class clown. Look over at her to see her reaction. Catch her eye at school events. Whether you're at the school play or the school dance, there are a few ways to show her she's special and make her want to hang out with you.
You should find a balance between playing hard to get and putting all your cards on the table. Here's how to do it: If you see her at the school play or talent show, ask her how she likes it. Show her that her opinion matters to you. Don't linger too long — just long enough to make her wish you'd stay.
If you're at the school dance, come up to her and dance like a goofball and then look very serious when you ask her if she likes your moves. If she's really into it, you can ask her to dance. If you're in the same club or do the same sport, ask her how she is without fawning all over her. Get her hooked after school. If you see the girl at a party or at the mall, that may be your best chance to isolate her a bit and make her see that you'd be the best boyfriend ever.
Once you're away from school property, you can relax a bit and let loose, and show her who you really are without being so worried about what everyone else is thinking. If you run into her at the mall, ask what stores she went to.
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